We’re on the no-call list. After our last placement we told our licensing worker we needed a long break. To rest and to heal ourselves before we might be ready to care for a hurting child.

But last week, she called anyway. Two precious sisters needed a home, a bed, a safe place.

We have that. And in this season of celebrating Jesus who was born without a home, it seemed fitting to share our abundance.

And so, yes. Yes, yes, yes.

Even amid the yeses, I have a hundred questions and a thousand more that I’m forgetting to ask.

Some come before I can answer. To make sure we could even be a good yes for these girls. But most come after, to make sure our yes is as good as it can be.

Filled with rooms outfitted with their favorite colors and equipment for their go-to activities. A little sliver of familiarity that says welcome.

After the questions I remember to ask, suddenly, that’s all I have. All I can know about these beautiful girls who are about to live in our home.

And soon all I can focus on until moving day.

Right now, I can’t ease their worries. Or find a good therapist. We can’t play a game together. Or laugh at my husband’s ridiculous antics.

Instead we wait.

Mine is an active waiting. Full of decorating rooms and readying crafts. Creating game closets and quote walls.

Aching to make our hellos as happy as foster hellos can be.


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  1. Jane Brown

    The desperation and hope of the worker who had blind faith that someone would say yes to help brings me to tears as does your yes.. You could have said, “No, we can’t”and she would have moved on with perhaps a bit more desparation and less hope. Thank you for saying, Yes, and actually making this world a better place.

    I pray that you find the strength you didn’t know you had – you are truly parenting! It pushes your limits, makes you feel inadequate; yet, they just need you there. Welcome back – The climb will sometimes be steeper but you are not alone. Sending hugs across the miles.

    When you can, please share sizes and preferences in case there is anything we could humbly offer. Much love, Jane

    • Liz

      Thanks for your encouragement, prayers and tangible offer, Jane! We still use many of the things you’ve shared in the past. So grateful for our village and that you’re a part of it.

  2. Pam H.

    Liz, Thank you so much for all your thoughts. I still read your blog even after all this time, even after I had to decide, due to my age and income, that I could not pursue being a foster parent. I’ve raised so many kids over the years that were mine only for a time, never through a foster agency, only through a friend of a friend, or a relative of a relative scenario. And after 40 years (and I still have the youngest two, 18 and 21 living at home due to disabilities) I’ve decided to live through others by reading their blogs. Please, keep writing. Keep giving of yourself to others even while you need to keep giving TO yourself – Life. God bless you and your husband and I mean that with all my heart and my deepest prayers.

    • Liz

      Thanks so much, Pam. I’m so glad you’ve been able to love and care for kids. Foster or not, I’m sure you’ve made a positive difference.

  3. Deborah

    you are an exception is this is true. But – it should be noted… you asked for a break and none was given ….because CPS can’t care about anyone … they pick them up without warrant or reason and put them down without care or concern… then, in 4 weeks or 4 months, when the honeymoon is over and all the problems emerge, they will come, pick them up … and place them elsewhere until they age out. God Bless you for trying! Your ideas are wonderful.

    • Liz

      Our licensing worker did give us several months off before calling. While I definitely understand how it can feel like CPS doesn’t care, many of the case workers I’ve encountered do care. It’s a tough job full of impossible decisions. I agree that the system is broken and many involved aren’t helping. I’m not sure of the solution, but I know these kids need more people who care to work together to try to find one.

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