To love and lose.

To love and lose.

A year ago I knew Big D was leaving. We walked into court ready to say goodbye.

And then he didn’t. We didn’t.

Instead we played soccer and visited the ocean. We watched each other’s favorite movies and made each other’s favorite meals. We found where everyone is most ticklish and just how much salt each of us prefers.

We learned each other. And loved each other into a little family.

Then court. It came and went again, but with a different verdict.

In two weeks, Big D will move to live with his biological dad one thousand miles away.

I always knew Big D would be going. But now I’m not ready.

Two more weeks isn’t enough. Two more years wouldn’t be either. My heart wants forever.

But my heart is bigger than this despair. It knows the deep goodness of a child seeing his father choose him. It feels the overwhelming joy of a family getting a second chance. It sees the great beauty of all that we built these past 18 months.

I signed up for this. To love and lose.

But I know our love isn’t lost. Love never is.


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  1. Evelyn Christensen

    I’m crying as I read this. I wish somehow he could be both places. But that’s not how our world is. Please know we’re holding all of you close in our prayers and in our hearts.

  2. Linda Williams

    The love you’ve put into this boy’s heart will follow him for the rest of his life. You’ve made a difference in the life of a child. It doesn’t get any more meaningful than that.

  3. Anna Vroon

    I have tears just reading this. I still cry because I miss the little one who left us a year and a half ago. You lose a member of your family when they leave, and nothing can make you ready for that. It breaks you heart. I will be thinking of you and praying. x

  4. ML Forsythe

    He is loved deeply. Your words move me to tears, of grief and joy. Praying for the Spirit’s Presence to surround you all.

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