Foster care isn’t what I thought. But of course it isn’t. Expectations rarely meet the breadth and depth of human experience.
Trauma leaves a greater mark than I knew on these little ones. And that leaves a greater mark on me.
But hope remains.
Both my own limited personal experience and Havard’s quantitative study confirm it. Naturally, Harvard says it best:
When confronted with the fallout of childhood trauma, why do some children adapt and overcome, while others bear lifelong scars that flatten their potential? A growing body of evidence points to one common answer: Every child who winds up doing well has had at least one stable and committed relationship with a supportive adult.
The power of that one strong adult relationship is a key ingredient in resilience — a positive, adaptive response in the face of significant adversity — according to a new report from the National Scientific Council on the Developing Child, a multidisciplinary collaboration chaired by Harvard’s Jack Shonkoff.
One adult makes not just a difference, but all the difference for these kids.
They need one adult who is safe, steady, reliable.
One adult who sticks with them through thick and thin, through anger and attitudes, through the months and years.
One adult who believes in them, shows up for them, comes through for them.
We can do one, right?