Listening.

Listening.


As a painfully slow reader, I often get frustrated at how long a book takes me to finish. And at how few other things I can accomplish at the same time.

Enter audio books.

I’m folding laundry and reading. I’m painting and reading. I’m driving and reading.

It’s glorious. The only problem is that it works better for some books than others. It’s perfect for stories (which I never choose), but not as easy for parenting books (which is everything I read).

I seem to gather the general principles, but often miss highlighting helpful lists or jotting down specific pointers.

Case and point: How to Talk so Kids will Listen & Listen so Kids will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. It includes loads of activities and exercises, along with little cartoon examples of what to do and what not to do.

I missed those. I found myself constantly wishing I was taking notes and starring pages. Capturing all the magic methods of children whispering. But driving and writing is awkwardly unsafe.

Luckily, I did get this little nugget, which reminded me that it’s ok that I didn’t get every single one.

“… life isn’t a neat little script that can be memorized and performed. The real-life dramas that children engage us in every day don’t give us time for rehearsal or careful thought.”

It’s not about all the new to-dos. It’s about the big idea. And I got that.

Empathy. Do empathy with kids.

I don’t like my thoughts or feelings or ideas being dismissed, and neither do they. So if it matters to them, it matters to me. If it has them out of sorts, it’s worth sorting out.

Now the challenge isn’t so much remembering as following through.

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