My unrealistic, immeasurable resolution.

My unrealistic, immeasurable resolution.


Hello 2016. This year, I’m already minus one job and plus two kids.

More homework and legos. Fewer pdfs and meetings. The same amount of coffee.

After diving into so much change, I thought I’d stay in the deep end a bit longer and go after a lofty and wildly impractical goal.

Over the next 12 months, I intend to change my Myers-Briggs personality type.

For those unfamiliar, Myers-Briggs is a psychological test that indicates preferences in how people perceive and interact with the world. How they make decisions. Who they are.

I’ve decided to switch mine.

Up until two weeks ago, I was a strong “J,” indicating someone who appreciates plans and respects rules. I’m now on the fast track to “P” which means lots of spontaneity and flexibility. A friend describes the difference as “just do it” vs “play it by ear.”

Put simply, J’s like control.

And I’ve decided to get over that.

In the foster care world, there is little control to be had. By the kids or the adults. Timelines are mere speculation. Schedules impossible to predict. Answers few and far between.

As Jonathan often says, “Hard telling not knowing.”

For J’s that level of ambiguity creates stress and anxiety. For P’s, it brings opportunity and excitement. A chance to thrive.

Obviously changing sides is a great idea. Really, it’s best for everyone involved.

Don’t worry. It’s not lost on me that altering my own personality may be the ultimate J move. Controlling my need for control. But rest assured, this will be my last.

Here’s to thriving as a P in 2016.

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  1. Grace Jones

    You are so right… Switching from J to P is a great goal to control what you can’t control.
    -love from another ALL J foster mom!

  2. Tricia

    Why not? Why the heck not? I think this is incredible… and I can’t wait to hear more about your journey. Cheers to serendipitous revelations in 2016!

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