Language is a funny thing. And funnier when you have two Myers-Brigs certified feelers who are also professional communicators.

Yes we over-analyze everything we say. And then debate it with each other.

So in talking about foster care, for a long time it was hard to say much. This was new territory. To us and to nearly all of our friends and family.

There were lots of good questions. And some awkward ones. We did our best to answer thoughtfully.

But where I tripped up without fail was when folks used that one word. Called.

It was nearly always used with confidence, assuming we had that same confidence. A confidence of our being “called” to foster care.

But we weren’t confident. We were all the emotions except confident.

We had two extra bedrooms and knew there were 400,000 kids who needed a bedroom. The math seemed good.

We were Christians who felt lost and confused by much of the Bible, but grasped the clear language of James 1:27, stating that true religion was caring for orphans and widows. That seemed like something we should and could get behind.

But called? We hadn’t had illuminating dreams or been passionate about foster care for years. We hadn’t even known anything about foster care for more than a year.

We felt perfectly logical and wildly uncertain in a way that didn’t fit the word “called.”

Since actually becoming foster parents, I’m still apprehensive. Does “called” make you awesome at it? That might not be us. We made mistakes and the whole thing hurt a lot. But I’m glad we did it. And I think we did a good thing. And we’re preparing to do it again.

So maybe we are called? Or nobody is called? Or we are all called?


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  1. Terri

    We fostered for 6 years. We had 40 newborns in our home and hearts in that short time. Of course each and everyone still remains in our heart and prayers.
    For us it was something that God was putting on our hearts a little at a time. Finally, I realized it is not my plan, but His and I pursued being a Foster Parent. The whole experience was life changing for the better.
    God is so good.

  2. MLF

    Ok I want to “share” this but don’t see a button on my phone facebook. So I will try when I am on the computer. I think “called” is exactly what you are describing. …seeing a deep need and feeling/seeing that you can do something about it. We just usually stifle that and go on our merry way. And many many Biblical people did not want to hear or respond to the call and very often felt inadequate and unsuccessful. Jeremiah especially railed at God for calling him to be a prophet when no one would listen. Thank you for sharing your feelings in such a profound way. Makes me think about what God might be “calling ” me to that I don’t want to hear.

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